Harrington Matchmaking Singles Database

Discussion Goals

  • Demystify how matchmaking databases typically work

  • Help develop realistic expectations

  • Explain the difference between singles database members and matchmaking clients

  • Increase transparency around the matchmaking process

  • Help you decide whether joining makes sense for you

  • Answer questions openly and honestly

Transparency creates healthier expectations — and healthier expectations create better experiences.

Kate Harrington

  • Founder of Harrington Matchmaking

  • Based in the Washington, D.C. metro area

  • Known for working with neurodivergent adults

  • Emphasis on coaching alongside matchmaking process

Contact Information

kate@harringtonmatchmaking.com
harringtonmatchmaking.com
@katewhdc

“Matchmakers are only as good as their database …”

What the Database Actually Is

  • A private collection of singles worldwide who have completed our matchmaking database questionnaire

  • Used as a resource for identifying potential matches for active matchmaking clients

  • Organized to help identify strong relational compatibility

  • Profiles are not publicly accessible or browsable by other members

  • Our database is currently free to join, some companies charge a membership fee

  • You are not guaranteed matches and no one is actively searching for matches on your behalf

The database is the foundation that makes personalized matchmaking possible.

Becoming a Singles Database Member

Complete the Questioniarre

Fill out a detailed form that asks you many questions about yourself and what you’re looking for in a relationship.
These questioniarre answers you submit, along with the 1-3 photos you are asked to upload then become your profile in our private database.

Your information is not visible to other members.
Our matchmaking clients are not given access to this database.
They cannot browse through it the way they may a dating app.

This form can be found on the home page of the Harrington Matchmaking website under “Our Services.”

Match Introductions

If you seem like a strong match for one of our clients in the future, we’ll contact you.

This could happen at any time (including months or years later).
If we reach out, we’ll ask you to sign a one-page confidentiality agreement before we share our client’s profile with you.

If we share a client’s profile with you, and you’re interested in getting to know them, we’ll then create a profile for you to share with our client.

If both you and our client are still interested in moving forward, we coordinate the introduction and first date.

Important Disclaimer

  • Many database members are never contacted

  • Compatibility is highly specific

  • Timing matters enormously

  • Lack of contact is not a reflection of worth or desirability

  • Matchmaking is slower and more nuanced than many people expect

All adults seeking relationships are welcome regardless of age, location, sexuality, or dating experience.

We never know what type of matchmaking client we may work with next.
For that reason, we want the database to be as diverse as possible.
We typically have thousands of individuals in the database at any given time.

Our system allows us to filter and sort profiles to quickly identify potential matches located near our clients.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • This database is a private collection of profiles of adults in our community.

    We store information about each person, such as their age, city, interests, and relationship goals.

    This is not a dating app.
    If you join the database, you will not be able to view other profiles.
    Only the Harrington Matchmaking team can see the database.

    This database of profiles is the first place we look when we search for matches for our clients.

    To join, you will fill out a detailed form and upload three photos of yourself.

  • We accept database members from all over the world.

    While we are known for our work supporting and connecting neurodivergent adults, we work with a diverse client base across a wide range of backgrounds and experiences.

    This database may be a good fit if:

    • You are comfortable with us reaching out if and when there is a potential match

    • You are open to the possibility of meeting in person for a first date if a strong match comes up

    • You understand this process can take time and are not in a rush

    • You understand that we have a large database, and we may never reach out with a match

    This may not be the best fit if:

    • You want us to actively search for matches specifically for you, rather than waiting to see if you are a fit for one of our clients

    • You are looking for regular or ongoing match introductions

    • You would benefit from coaching or consistent support in your dating life

    If you are looking for consistent or curated matches, or more hands-on support, you may want to explore our services.

    Our six-month matchmaking packages include coaching, a guaranteed number of matches selected specifically for you, and a dedicated matchmaker/coach who supports you throughout the process.

    For neurodivergent adults seeking a more supported, community-based option without the price point of private 1:1 matchmaking or coaching, we recommend joining our Constellations membership.

    Questions? Contact us or click the icon in the lower right corner of this page.

  • ou’ll fill out the form on this page. It is detailed and typically takes about 10–20 minutes to complete.

    You will also be asked to upload three photos, including one full-body photo, so it’s helpful to have these ready before you begin.

    After you submit the form, your information is added to our database and we create a private profile for you.

    We will send your profile to you to review and approve before sharing it with any of our clients.

    If we believe you could be a strong match for one of our clients, we will contact you first to ask if you are interested before making an introduction.

    Some people are never contacted after joining the database. This is because we may not have a client at that time who is a strong match.

  • Joining the database does not mean you will receive a match.

    Many people in the database are never contacted.

    If you would like more support in meeting people, there are other ways to work with us.

    Our six-month matchmaking packages include coaching and a guaranteed number of matches selected specifically for you. A dedicated matchmaker/coach supports you throughout the process.

    For neurodivergent adults seeking a more supported, community-based option without the price point of private 1:1 matchmaking or coaching, we recommend joining our Constellations membership.

    Questions? Contact us or click the icon in the lower right corner of this page.

  • No. If you have received this link, you are eligible to join the database at no cost.

    If we reach out to you in the future about a potential match, there is still no obligation to pay anything. Again, we do not offer any guarantee that you will receive any match introductions once you join.

    If you would like to become a client and have us actively search for matches specifically for you, there is, of course, a fee for our matchmaking services.

    Our Constellations membership, which offers a structured community and additional support crafted for neurodivergent adults, is also a paid program with an annual membership fee.

  • Our database includes people from a wide range of backgrounds. We are especially known for being inclusive of neurodivergent adults, individuals with disabilities, and those who may feel on the fringe of traditional social or dating spaces — though all are welcome.

    We are LGBTQ+ friendly.

    On average, most individuals in our database are between the ages of 21 and 59.

  • Yes. You are welcome to complete the form with a parent, caregiver, or support person if that is helpful.

    While you are welcome to join the database, individuals with support needs often benefit more from our Constellations program, which offers a more structured, supported experience.

How We Approach Dating

Clarity is Kindness

We encourage clear and honest communication.

This means saying what you feel, what you want, and when something does not feel right.

Avoiding these conversations may feel easier at first, but it often leads to confusion or hurt later.

Being clear helps both people understand each other and respect each other’s boundaries.

Slow is Safe

Getting to know someone takes time.

We encourage our community to move slowly so they can notice how someone communicates, follows through, and treats them over time.

This helps you figure out if someone is kind, reliable, and safe to be around.

There is no need to rush into decisions. Taking things step by step helps build trust and leads to better, more stable relationships.

Pressure is Poison

When someone feels rushed, overwhelmed, or pushed, it becomes harder to connect and make good decisions.

We do not rush people into conversations, dates, or relationships.
You are allowed to take your time.

If something feels urgent, that is a sign to pause.

Healthy connection should feel calm, respectful, and not pressured.