Private Matchmaking
A search as unique as the person we’re searching for.
Six months of personalized matchmaking, with the search, introductions, dates, coaching and details handled alongside you.
Private engagements begin at $3,500/month.
Before we search, we meet.
Every private matchmaking engagement begins face-to-face.
We spend time with you in person before your search begins — not because we couldn’t collect the same facts on a form or Zoom call, but because good matchmaking asks us to understand things that don’t always fit neatly into either.
If you don’t live near us, we come to you.
Harrington Matchmaking travels throughout the United States and internationally for private client intake sessions.
We wouldn’t feel comfortable asking someone to meet you if we couldn’t tell them we’d met you ourselves.
Our Process
We search
We look within our network, collaborate with matchmakers around the country, and recruit beyond it when your search calls for someone we don’t already know.
We introduce
Potential matches are screened before they’re presented to you. Your engagement includes a minimum matching commitment, but we’re interested in more than filling a quota.
We plan
When you both want to meet, we coordinate the details — from schedules and reservations to choosing a setting that makes sense for the two people actually going on the date.
We stay involved
We gather feedback, refine the search and help navigate what develops. Private coaching and brief between-session support are included throughout your engagement.
The search gets better as we go.
Every introduction gives us information. We listen to your feedback, pay attention to what feels easy or difficult, notice what surprises you, and refine accordingly.
Good matchmaking isn’t static. The search becomes more informed as we learn what works in real life — not only what sounded right on paper.
Inclusivity
There isn’t one correct way to communicate, connect, socialize, or build a relationship.
Harrington Matchmaking prides itself on working with adults across a wide range of backgrounds, personalities, communication styles and dating histories. We have particular experience working with neurodivergent (specifically autistic adults with low support needs in their 20s, 30s, and 40s) and disabled adults, including people who have found that conventional dating advice — or conventional matchmaking — wasn’t built with them in mind.
That may mean being more thoughtful about sensory environments, communication, transportation, executive functioning, social energy, disability, support systems, independence or something completely different. This may mean a radically different approach to coaching and collaboration with parents and the wider support network.
We don’t assume what someone needs based on a diagnosis.
We ask.
And though we’re not sure what “typical” means, neurotypical clients are equally welcome here.
The principle is the same for everyone: the search should be built around the actual person in front of us.
Waitlist
Consultation
Private matchmaking with Harrington Matchmaking is intentionally limited.
Over time, we have become especially sought after within the neurodivergent and disabled community, where truly individualized matchmaking options remain limited. That demand has grown faster than the number of private searches we can responsibly take on at once.
We could accept more clients.
We don’t think that would make us better matchmakers.
So when our private practice is full, we maintain a waitlist rather than reduce the level of attention, search work and support each client receives.
If Harrington Matchmaking feels like the right fit for you, joining the waitlist is the first step. If you’d rather not wait, keep reading for a few more ways in which we can support you.
Sometimes the best next step is not waiting.
Harrington Matchmaking has relationships with matchmakers and dating professionals across the country, each with different specialties, networks, geographic reach and ways of working.
If you know you want professional support but aren’t sure which kind — or which matchmaker — is the right fit, you can book a private Matchmaking Consultation.
We’ll talk through who you’re hoping to meet, your geography, budget, dating history, previous matchmaking experiences and the kind of support you want. From there, we’ll help you think through the options.
That may mean joining the Harrington Matchmaking waitlist.
It may mean another matchmaker we know and trust.
It may mean coaching, a community, or another kind of support altogether.
The goal is clarity — not convincing you to join our waitlist and hire Harrington Matchmaking.
Harrington Matchmaking has professional relationships with other matchmakers and may receive a referral fee if you ultimately choose to work with someone we recommend. Referral compensation does not determine whom we recommend.
The Investment
Costs in the matchmaking industry vary wildly depending on ——-. For Harrington Matchmaking, private matchmaking with a strong foundation in coaching is offered as a six-month engagement, with engagements beginning at $3,500 per month, paid in full at the start.
Your search includes a minimum matching commitment, private coaching, date planning and support throughout the engagement. The exact scope depends on your geography, search parameters and the level of search required.
Because every search is different, final pricing is determined after we learn more about what you’re looking for.
You don’t have to hire a matchmaker to be known by one.
Not everyone who belongs in the matchmaking world needs to become a private matchmaking client.
You may be managing your own dating life but open to the right introduction. You may want to be considered when Harrington Matchmaking or another matchmaker is searching for someone like you. Or you may simply want help getting into the right rooms and onto the right radars.
That’s where Harrington Matchmaking Concierge comes in.
Concierge gives us a way to know who you are, keep you in mind for appropriate opportunities, and help you navigate the wider matchmaking and dating-support landscape when useful.
